• Melissa K. Nicholson, LMSW

Psychotherapy with the Wrong Therapist Can Hinder Your Chances for Healing

There is a lot of different types of therapy methods out there today. It can be confusing when searching for a therapist to cypher the terminology of "evidence-based practice," CBT, DBT, EMDR, and various other therapy jargon... leaving you, the potential client, in a total head spin! The purpose of this blog post is to really cut through the psychobabble, and help you find the therapist that is the best fit for you.

The bedrock of psychotherapy is the relationship you form with your therapist. There is actual research to show that, not matter what type of therapy used, the relationship is the most important factor for therapy to work. A metaphor I use to describe finding the right therapist is it's similar to dating. If there isn't chemistry, then the relationship isn't going anywhere. So, how do you find that “right fit”?"

Know What Your Looking For

You can get a referral from your doctor or a friend, however, the internet can also provide you with a lot of detail if you know what you are looking for. Referrals are great, but what fits for one person may not be a good fit for another. I know that my particular taste in shoes is very different than my friends. The same concept can apply to therapist style as well. Again, it is important for you to get the right fit for you!

Do I feel comfortable being me?

Some people identify credentials and experience as important to them when looking for a therapist. Of course it is important you find a therapist who is qualified (credentialed plus experienced). However, at the end of the day, specific credentials and years of experience are meaningless if you don't trust your therapist.

Most people can tell after the first few sessions whether they feel comfortable with a therapist's style. If, after a few sessions, you feel you aren't a good fit, talk to the therapist. He or she would be happy to make a referral to another therapist in the community. Therapist want you to feel that you can develop a trust with him or her, or any therapist, because that is when therapy is most effective. We want you to be able to get the right therapist for you!

I hope you have found this post helpful in helping you on your journey in finding a therapist that's the right fit for you. Remember, if you are currently have a therapist and are concerned, please trust your gut and discuss your concerns with him or her. If your therapist doesn't address your concerns and/or you feel that your feelings are not being heard, I advise you to listen to your heart and consider seeking another therapist. If you have checked out my website and think that I might be a good fit for your journey towards healing, then feel free to contact me at

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5300 Northland Dr NE, Ste F

Grand Rapids, MI 49525

Licensed Psychotherapist

Trauma-Informed Yoga Educator

Tel: 616-795-0181

Fax: 888-972-8639


© 2017 by Melissa K. Nicholson, LMSW. | Licensed Psychotherapist in Grand Rapids, MI | Kent County, Michigan